Most people (and experts!) would agree that the key to an uninhibited s-exual experience with a partner is to know thyself — intimately. In other words, before you can have great s-ex as a couple, you must first understand what gets you off. What are your turn-ons (and turn-offs)? What fantasies do you want to try? Where do you like to be touch
“The next time you go to bed with your partner,ask yourself this question: “What is the feeling, thought, or behavior that is most present within me at this moment?” Perhaps you are experiencing fear, tension or even anger. Don’t be afraid to express these feelings to your partner — and invite your partner to do the same. This will result in a truly intimate moment. “—Bruce Derman