“Loose lips Sink Relationships"
Sometimes we tend to share our relationships wahala or joys with our friends, family and sometimes random colleagues.
There are so many
reasons why we do, if you’re riding on the waves of love with le boo, we
tend to update our bbm status, update facebook status, ping friends to chat
about how AWESOMELICIOUS your boo is and how HE IS THE BESTESTESTEST boo since "booness" began. Most of us are guilty. LOL. Some other times when the ship is
not riding smoothly we become inspirational and update with sentimental things
that everyone can decipher that, ol’boy, e be like say this one dey fight with
her boo.
MONEY – Never tell anyone how much your boo earns, or if you’re
having money problems. People don’t need to know this. Who wears the financial pants? Who pays for what? If you have an
agreement with le boo about how you both want to manage your finances then this
should not be up for debate with your friends. The "you can chop my money" status of your relationship should be hidden.
BEDROOM – Do not share what went down last night, how you
were kissed senseless, how does this information affect the price of garri in
the market? If your boo is a stallion and he steady gives you the "D", keep it to yourself unless you don’t mind
sharing him? If you’re celibate avoid discussing it too as your friends may envy
you, and if you’re not celibate, you may be tagged as “loose”. They will yimu no matter what.
DETAILS – Avoid giving details. “My boo’s favourite food is
Amala and gbegiri, my boo scratches her
boobs first thing in the morning, my boo doesn’t like this or that”. Why are
you furnishing others with this privileged information? Haven’t you heard
stories where a friend snatches le boo? Why do you think that happens? They already
know your boo's likes, dislikes, habits e.t.c Do not tell any one where you boo's mumu button is (thanks Honeydame)
FIGHTS – Couples fight all the time, if you don’t fight in
your relationship then I put it to you that you are a liar! LOL. Friction is normal
as long as you kiss and make up… but telling your parents, your friends about
every single quarrel will not help. Its always awkward because your friends
will always be on your side and will keep condemning you boo… after you say
they don’t respect him/her, why should they? After you’ve forgiven and moved
on, those you told will always remember. This point is null and void if your boo is abusive!
SECRETS – We all have secrets and your boo may have told you
some of his/hers, it would be totally out of place for you to share something
confidential like that with others. Also, if you have a secret you’re keeping from
your boo then you should never tell someone else that “biko I don’t want
him/her to find out or my boo doesn’t know about this oh”…you’re only giving
outsiders ammunition. What if they accidentally or purposely jabo the gist to
your boo? Kasala go burst!
**DREAMS/PLANS – Dreams, aspirations, plans are things we
share with people we love, when your boo is telling you of the mansion he wants
to build in 5 years time, or the business he wants to start, avoid being a
tatafo, do NOT share this with anyone. Keep their plans, aspirations between
the both of you.
Your partner will feel betrayed when they find out you’ve been talking about your private matters, they wouldn’t trust you with anything; If you discuss these matters with your colleagues it breeds see-finish, biko stop. Your friends will wonder what your saying about them to others if your can be so open with details of your boo’s life. People will think you have no self control… they will never confide in you.
Whao! The truth and its sad am guilty. I recently exposed a sexual fetish recently to a friend... And now its like the hottest news in my area.. Am just coping with the shame ...bro.
ReplyDeleteU re quite right.some things re meant to be private. Thanks girl
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